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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that you need to separate your relationship with your SIL from your relationship with MIL.  Can you go to see MIL?  Does your personal schedule permit working within the parameters of this electronic calendar?  Do you see MIL outside of this schedule -- and if so, how often?  Will you feel guilty when she eventually passes if you don't spend this time with her now?  It sounds like she's been a good MIL (which seems to be rare on this board!)

I think the SIL is being a bit much, but maybe she knows that MIL would like to see you as well.  What about DH?  I know it would definitely warm my heart to see him care enough about my parents to make time on a regular basis.  Do you have kids?  What do you want them to take from this?  I'd like my daughter to see me helping MIL, even though MIL can drive me bsc.

I've asked a lot of questions, but I think they are relevant and might help you make a decision, putting aside your self-absorbed SIL.[/quote]

This is OP again. 
My MIL has been a very good MIL, a friendly and caring MIL. Yes, I would absolutely feel guilty if she passes and I haven't seen her enough. I'm actually going to see her with my husband next time he visits. We'll spend time with her and we'll take her out to lunch at her favorite restaurant (she's been talking about how much she wants to go there).

MIL and I have always had a good relationship. My late FIL and I were very good friends too.

I just don't want to be bossed around or taken for granted by my husband's pushy sister who otherwise never has any time for me.

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