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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP if this seems like a burden to you, you might be stretched too thin. Nobody has a perfect family. A well-meaning, perhaps bored aunt who sends too many gift texts is not high on the list of problems that come with being in a family. This should be mildly annoying but very manageable. If it feels like you can’t deal, you may be too busy. [/quote]

Said somebody who does not understand the way dysfunctional people operate. Most likely the aunts behavior is a SYMPTOM of a whole lot of crazy. If you understand how dysfunction works you understand the little thing is often just another example a large gaping issue like the person is....controlling or manipulative or dramatic and for whatever reason it's the annoying barrage of texts that sends us into frustration when really it's a sign of a person who is just a jerk. Gifts are the PERFECT way to let out one's crazy and be passive aggressive, because it's a giiiiiiift, everyone should be gracious and kind about gifts? How could someone who gives gifts be anything but generous?[/quote]

This X1000. Gifts are like siren calling for the crazies. We had one who would not not do this but who would demand to be included in whatever the kids were doing for their birthday parties. This did not, would not and will not work. Her angle in was that she wanted to bring them a cake but actually she wanted them to spend the day with her baking the cake. She didn’t care that logistically this wouldn’t work or that the kids had no and have never had any interest in spending the day with her.  They especially were not going to cancel their party with friends at a fun venue . She was really ugly when we said no thank you. She thought she had found the perfect way to manipulate in. [/quote]

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