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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I believe you about your sister and your concern, but I just want to bring up some possibilities you might not have considered:

It is possible that:

Your sister experienced trauma in your family, and it was not addressed
Your parents are not perfect, or even good, and you are in denial about it
Your sister is doing better, has supportive people around, because she distanced from your family
Your sister was misdiagnosed, has suffered mental illness compounded by misunderstanding

Or not. In any case, I support earlier comments to stay close and ready to help the child if needed.

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I agree with all of this except the staying close to help the child. I think the OP should distance herself- seems like it would be beneficial for the OP and her sister.

It sounds like they grew up in a dysfunctional family where the sister was the scapegoat and the OP was perhaps the golden child. OP will admit to her dad being "strict," "difficult to be around," and "like oil and water" with the sister, but smooths it all over by saying he helps out a lot. She says her heart was broken by her sister cutting her parents off, that the parents didn't deserve it, and that the were 100% supportive of the sister. This is a very one sided story. 
OP claims she has consulted another sibling who says OP has *never* done anything unkind toward the sister. OP says sister has been in institutions much of her life- did this begin in childhood/teenage years at the parents' doing? Are they the ones who started her on psychiatric medications and/or electoconvulsive therapy?

Let the sister live her life. Let her heal. She has married, cut off her parents, and is becoming a mother. You said yourself you aren't close to her, and that she has an involved and present husband and in-laws. Leave her in peace and stop trying to drag out the dynamic of you as the superior, sane sister. [/quote]

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