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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, be honest with yourself here. Are you basically implying your sister should not be allowed to be a parent? Are you interested in having her baby taken away?

Your posts and attitude toward your sister are very harsh. You make excuses for everyone else, but her; in particular when discussing your parents. You also imply that your decision to not have a baby is right and her decision to have one is wrong.

Persons with disabilities, including mental ones, have parenting and constitutional rights. How do you know she won’t be a good parent, and doesn’t have a good support system? Because she hasn’t even had the baby yet. You don’t know. Just like you don’t know someone without bipolar and who has a cleaning driving record would be a good one.

Disabled people have been discriminated against for parenting since forever. Instead of shaming and shaking your head at your sister’s decisions, instead of having eugenic views about who should and should not be allowed to parent, why not support her, why not help her, why not educate yourself. Worried about her being a parent and having bipolar, talk to other bipolar parents. Worried about her driving, offer to pay for her Ubers or suggest driving lesson, etc.

The snap judgment that she shouldn’t be a mother is wrong. Plus that ship has sailed, she’s pregnant. And implying she shouldn’t have parenting rights is also wrong. It’s people like you that want babies taken from disabled mothers in the hospital by CPS. Shameful.

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And OP comes across very self-centered, has thrown out multiple potential diagnoses for her sister, pretends to know a ton about her sister's daily life despite only speaking to her once per year, etc. Examine your own toxic behavior OP and perhaps you also need some therapy.[/quote]

+1 I feel like OP's main issue is that her sister's rejection of their parents calls into question the health of their family of origin. OP is very invested in "sister=bad, parents=good" and can't deal with the cognitive dissonance presented by her sister's new life. I'm not sure I see true concern for the sister here, but perhaps jealousy that the "bad sister" is going to have a baby.

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