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[quote=Anonymous]I've posted on this before.  I agree that women just think it's no problem getting pregnant later.  When I was in my mid-thirties, I found myself looking at celebraties my age or slightly older that were having babies and thinking if she can do it, so can I.  Well, looking back, I am not so sure they didn't have help and I was fooling myself.

I met DH when I was 32, got married at 34, pregnant at 37, but a m/c, then pregnant again almost immediately. Healthy baby at 38.  Lots of strain on our marriage with DD added.  DH kept thinking we could wait since I seemed to get pregnant so easily.  Well, we waited unti I was over 40 to try again.  Three misses later, we gave up.  I was so old that my only option to avoid the misses would have been DE.  Having one miracle with DD was going to have to be enough for me.

I got a new job, less stress, and got pregnant at almost 44.  Baby is now 6 months old and I am 45 years old.

Both DH and I thought "no problem".  Well, we had a problem.  I started looking at my DD that is now almost 7 and thinking she was my miracle.   I know I am lucky.  I so wish someone had explained to my husband that we should have started trying sooner, even for no. 1.

Women now at least have the option of freezing eggs to have a biological child.  But, it's expensive.  If I had my life to live again, I would have done it at 30, before meeting DH, but at least the eggs would have been available to use for IVF.   For those of us of AMA now, that option wasn't available for us.

Famous women having babies in their forties does a disservice to the general population if they don't say they had interventions.  It's a shame.[/quote]

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