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[quote=Anonymous]I'm very surprised that so many people were unaware of the deline of fertility.  I am currently pregnant with my second and will soon be 39 and have been accutely aware of my declining fertility since... well... since my mid 20s.

I didn't meet my husband until I was almost 33.  As soon as it became clear that we were planning to spend our life together -- and before we actually got married-- we started trying to get pregnant.  I was 35 by then.  I always assumed it would be difficult and was fully prepared for a long hard struggle.  Ultimately it only took about six months (and some surgeries) to conceive our first child.  And then, although my preference was for a three year age gap we started trying for a second much earlier because, again, we thought it might be difficult to get pregnant due to age.  We were right and I had two miscarriages in the six months before this pregnancy (about to enter the third trimester).

I absolutely would have tried earlier if I had a partner in my late 20s or early 30s.  At that point in my life everywhere I turned I seemed to be hearing abotu declining fertility as you age.  Hearing this from a colleague telling me to get a move on with having children would certainly have offended me and made me feel inadequate for not yet having a partner in my life.  I can't imagine how anyone would have avoided knowing this (though I guess I understand that some people think it won't apply to them... I felt the opposite).[/quote]

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