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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Where will the hospital discharge the patient to? Do they have people to handle it? This elderly person does not have his own residence or anyone capable of caring for him.[/quote]

End up going to a low cost hell hole. [/quote]

Do you have personal experience with this? [/quote]

I do. Yes, this is what happens. The social worker tries desperately to guilt family members into more then they can do, and when that doesn’t work, they find placement in not-so-nice places because that’s what happens if there’s no $$[/quote]

this person is correct. If you do not want to take the person, do not do it. Ignore the guilt. A friend of mine fell for it with an abusive mother and it was a living hell having her. If you want to take the family member, then by all means go for it, but make sure you know what you are getting into.[/quote]

Sadly accepting responsibility to care for someone can seriously jeopardize the long-term financial well-being of a younger caregiver, including children, nieces/nephews, etc. I know a number of instances where people, usually single middle-aged women, had to quit their jobs due to round the clock care, ended up moving into the parents' home to provide the care, were out of the work force for a number of years, then lose the home when the state forces a liquidation when the parent/elder moves into a long-term care as they can no longer be accommodated at home. Regrettably, it makes no financial sense for a younger person to make these choices. It's horrible, but it is the reality, especially for single people with no other source of income as the care needs preclude their working.

My cousin was only able to do this as she was retired, not flush but okay, and her mom, who was fairly ambulatory at the time, moved into her home. My cousin never jeopardized her house, which is her only asset. [/quote]

Kids are not financially responsible for their parents.  [/quote]

What will the state do if elder is destitute (no house, minimal cash in bank), but adult children are millionaires? Will state come after them or force them to take mom in?[/quote]

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