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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the PP who asked about why kids shouldn't aim high if they want to.

My DS made the choice of where to apply with the guidance of his college counselor and my husband and me (mostly to discuss costs). Again, I find it odd that many posters assume that any kid who applies to a T10 school must be being pressured by their parents to do so. He did not blanket the T10, but applied selectively to several schools that had the programs and the culture he was interested in. I absolutely agree that a kid who dreams of attending Brown, might not be so happy at Princeton, and if a kid applies to all T10 schools, it's likely more a prestige-grab than anything else.

My DS had the same experience as other posters. Rejected or WL by every single match (except UVA) and much better results at more selective schools. And, he had plenty of demonstrated interest at those matches.

Strange and difficult process. I'm glad it's finished.[/quote]

I don't think it is always the case that the parents pressured the kid...but I think when your read about overly depressed kids who have solid options, often the parent did not do a good job of helping the kids see college and this whole process in perspective. They drank the kool aid and let the kid take too many AP's, too little sleep, choose activities based upon building an inauthentic resume, paid consultants to boost adequate test scores and polish essays that were fine coming from a 17 year old. When you do all of that, your kid can figure out what you want their outcome to be. So, while you may  not have pressured them with words...your actions spoke volumes. [/quote]

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