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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have not gone thru this, but I think your job now can be to figure out what government agencies can help their situation. You should not have to spend your $$ or use funds earmarked for your children. Do they each receive social security? Are they eligible for medicaid? Food stamps?   Do you have any siblings to help you? Hopefully, someone on this forum can lead you to an elderly social worker type group.[/quote]

That's what I'm trying to figure out, but from what I can tell it looks like their social security income plus the one small pension is just slightly above the monthly threshold for qualifying for government assistance. But no where near enough to pay for nursing care or assisted living. I'm trying to read up to understand this better, but need to take breaks as I'm just feeling angry. [/quote]

If your parents have social security and a small pension, you should consider talking with an eldercare attorney about how to get your parents into a facility. Sometimes nursing facilities will accept you if you can private pay for x months before going on Medicaid. They will typically take all of the SS and pension $, and allow you a tiny amount for personal items. Talk to an elder care attorney about how to legally spend down their assets. [/quote]

Yes! You can't do this alone.  Call an eldercare attorney/manager to connect and coordinate a variety of services.  My mom refused to entertain any planning regarding what would happen to her if my dad died.  She refused to engage in these discussions. We tried getting my parents into an apartment, she refused. Now she's stuck living alone yet is unable to do anything logistics-wise (she never has been -- very dependent on my dad and us).  She did this, so eldercare manages it[/quote]

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