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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how is your spouse dealing with all of those?  We have a similar situation but with my in-laws and it has become a strain on our marriage.  It's important to me to be able to pay for my kids' education, but DH wants to prioritize supplementing his dad's retirement lifestyle.  Difficult issue, and I hope you are communicating with your spouse and respecting his wishes, too.  [/quote]

Supportive so far, but this is important cautionary advice. I don't think either of us understood how bad their situation was and their health was fine...until it wasn't.[/quote]

NP.  I feel like i can see my future with this- I think my parents are doing *ok* right now because their health is generally good but I know they don't have a lot of savings and didn't get much when the sold their house due to refinancing multiple times.  But my dad is not upfront at all, I don't know if my mom even knows their situation.  And it already happened with my now deceased paternal grandparents, in their case they lived far above their retirement income (took grandfather's pension as a lump sum) and then the health problems mounted.  Difference being that my dad was one of 8 kids and one of my uncles is very well off, so between the 8 kids sending money every month with that uncle contributing a lot more, they were able to keep my grandparents at their home with health care aides for a long time.  Will not be able to do that with my parents.

Best of luck to you figuring this out.[/quote]

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