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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother does this too. She came up to DC for the weekend for a trip with her surrogate daughter (a woman she used to work with), and they were staying in a hotel in NW and had a very busy schedule planned. She told me she had no time to see me or my kids. I was pretty upset about it, even offered to drive to her to all go to breakfast, brunch, lunch or dinner, my treat. But no.

Then she gets up here and they discover it's $60 a day, per car, to park at the hotel (they each had a car). So suddenly she decides she does have time to see me, to drop off her car and leave it in my driveway for 4 days to save on the parking fee. She came, took her stuff out of her car and put in her friend's car, then they both left in the friend's car. That was it. That is all I saw her. Then my kids came home, saw Grandma's car, were all excited she was here and I had to explain it was just her car here, she wasn't coming.

My mother sees zero problem with what she does. She had a great weekend with her friend. I cried for almost 2 days.[/quote]

Holy shit, PP, that is absolutely awful. I’m so sorry. [/quote]

I am so sorry. My mom is completely obsessed with some cousins who live more of the lifestyle she considers up to her standards-fancy home, etc. She had this strange ritual where she expected us to be oncall for holidays, but she waited to see if these people invited her first. If we made other plans before she heard, she was offended. However, it was our job to ready as plan B. We could not go see these cousins because she refused to admit that one of our kids had special needs, but it was not something we could just hide. I actually put up with this for so long and we could not explain what was going on to our kids, but we were constantly making excuses. She was kind to our child with SN, but refused to accept there were SN and she criticized me for all the interventions, etc. Now as more people distance themselves from her she vacillates between fake kindness so we will do things for her and then tirades so we will do things for her. There are so many layers of crazy I am dealing with as my elderly mom gets more needy and I realize how truly obnoxious and cruel-hearted she is. [/quote]

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