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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tread carefully.  Give her space to come to her own conclusions about him. [/quote]

This was my thought too. She’s a grown woman, and you are choosing to give her the money. Now you are attaching strings to it and trying to control her via your money.
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I disagree.   I posted a couple hours ago asking if the daughter's landlord knew the boyfriend is living there.   If OP is paying all the bills, I'm assuming the daughter doesn't have sufficient income to qualify for rent, and OP is probably a co-signer on the apartment.    If the daughter gets evicted for having an unauthorized tenant, how will that effect OP as a co-signer?   Will OP have an eviction on her/his record?  [/quote]

I also disagree. There are no blank checks. If your employer only pays you if you work X hours and provide value, are they “attaching strings”? The daughter is the one who pulled a bait and switch on the parents. They committed to supporting her only. Now a new person pops up and they have no say as to whether they have to support him too? Manipulative behavior would be to withhold money because you disapprove of the BF or living arrangement. It isn’t manipulative to expect him to pay his own way. In fact, asking him to pay will see his true colors come out instead of enabling a freeloading useless guy.[/quote]

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