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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have two girls - older DD was a few months shy of turning 6 when younger DD was born.  Older DD adored her little sister from the moment she was born, and it hasn't changed 3 years later.  DH and I also both work full time.

What we do differently than you, OP, is we totally embrace divide and conquer.  We carve out sometimes that we all spend as a family -- weeknight family dinners, brunches on weekends, outings like a hike, stuff like that.  But a very substantial amount of our time is one parent with one kid.  Everyone is happier -- the interactions and the outings are all more fun.  I don't even understand why folks are resistant to it.  [/quote]

We have the same approach for our two boys (5.5 years apart), and it’s worked well. My sister and I are almost six years apart, and this is what my parents did with us, too.[/quote]

DP here. Because I don’t want to spend that much time apart from my husband. [/quote]

Is this a joke? You can easily have an hour or two a night with your DH after the kids go to bed. And hire a babysitter every weekend for date night. How much more time do you need?[/quote]

NP, but that’s absolutely not a joke. I didn’t want to spend that much time away from my kid or spouse. Doing things all together is fun and what family is really about to us. Not an exhausted hour in the evening and date night. Evenings and weekends spending time together. I grew up with a big age gap and didn’t want divide and conquer parenting for my family. That’s why we stopped trying after the age gap got too big (6+ years) due to secondary infertility. If it works for you, that’s fine. But some of us want a different dynamic for our families and that’s okay too.[/quote]

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