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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pre-Covid, my MIL was at the hospital and popping in during my labor.  HUGE MISTAKE.  Then my FIL gave the baby a cold on her first day home which sent her back to the hospital.  It caused a lot of problems between DH and myself and I get mad at myself every time I think of it.  I just felt so bullied and inconsequential.

This baby, everyone is going to wait a full month before I let them see the baby (and after PCR Covid tests). [/quote]

yikes!!! How stressful!!!

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It was truly awful.  An Asian woman told me that in their culture they wait 40 days before allowing anyone to see the newborn.  Sounds good to me! [/quote]

I wonder if the Asian woman was Indian?   :lol:

I had my baby in this country and my mom came to help me.  She was aghast at the lack of care for new mom and baby that she saw here as compared to what she was used to. Once we were  home, she made sure that baby and I were under strict isolation and basically the house was in a lockdown. This was pre-pandemic.

I was given special diet, special drinks to increase milk supply. Every day, mom gave my baby and I medicinal oil massages to heal the bones,  relax the muscles and build up stamina.  The  only bad part was that as part of this tradition, I had to follow strict rules about only drinking special warm water or beverages,  to be fully covered and keep warm, and stay in a warmish room.  Apart from that, my only job was to nurse the baby and sleep.  For 40 days, my DH and mom - cleaned, cooked, did laundry, grocery and took care of the baby (diaper change, burping, holding the baby...etc, etc).  I have realized that this was a needed time. DH was a trooper and he lined up as much help and outsourcing that he could get.

At the end of the 40 days, we had a religious ceremony with invited guests, to welcome the baby and to introduce the baby to the world. Everyone got to see the baby, were served a sumptuous meal (catered!), and after giving their blessings everyone went back home. I felt that everything was ok with the world.[/quote]

Yes, she was!  But she never mentioned the special diet!  [/quote]

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