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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve gained 30-35 pounds since we’ve been married.  I didn’t think it was a big deal to my husband.  He still loves me, and he still wants to have sex all of the time.  But he just told me the other day that it really bothers him that I don’t make more of an effort to lose the weight, and it makes him feel kind of down about [b]himself[/b].  I don’t understand, but he seemed sincere, and I have started making an effort to lose it.  [/quote]

I'll help you understand. A thin wife is a status symbol for a straight man, and deep down inside, your husband wishes he had that. He thinks it would compensate for some insecurity he has. It's human, but sad.

Our society is *such* a bummer. So unkind to men and women alike. I'm sorry you're in the thick of this right now.[/quote]

It's true... 
[youtube]https://youtu.be/5INagajmeg4[/youtube]

You can basically judge a man's happiness by the size of his house and how hot the woman on his arm is.[/quote]

Okay.  But this guy’s wife stayed thin, and he still (kind of publicly) cheated and then divorced.  
I think I just married badly.  I sometimes wish I had thought to be less attractive during my dating years and found someone who didn’t see me as a status symbol or a way to compensate for some insecurity.

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Whaaat? Don’t blame yourself! Whatever your husbands reason for thinking your weight has anything to do with him, that’s his issue and not yours. [/quote]

I read it another way, like poor me for being good looking and ending up with a superficial spouse. Um, unless you were a child bride you had half the say. You could have chose a man who wasn’t insecure and superficial. That’s on you.[/quote]

Pp here.  Yeah.  I married badly.  Isn’t that what I said?  
I think it’s stupid to try to be as attractive as you can while dating.  It doesn’t really open up your dating pool, it’s impossible to maintain, and it just attracts the wrong kind of guy.  [/quote]

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