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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Of course you can.  [b]And it’s better to not have children if you are on the fence than to have children you resent.[/b]  There are plenty of ways to positively impact the life of child.  You can be the world’s greatest aunt/uncle/godparent, you can be a mentor and volunteer at schools or community centers.  There is not just this one way to be a family.[/quote]

People say this on these boards sometimes, and it irks me because you just don't know. As a couple who was very much on the fence (and I mean agonized over it, spoke to different people about it, etc) and then decided to have a child, I don't resent my child. I actually think it's very normal to be unsure about children and regardless which way you fall, OP, it's great that you're really thinking through the decision.

I do think couples can be fulfilled without children (or even getting married). What ultimately tipped it one way for us/me is that while I loved my childless life, I could see myself wondering down the road what else there is to life. I guess the childless couple would say more travel, more disposable income, more free time. And I really think those are all great things. It's just about priorities and values, and all of that is deeply personal. I agree with the sentiment that childless in your 30s vs 60s might feel different––for me!

We have one child. No regrets...except possibly not having a second. So there you go. You just don't know.[/quote]

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