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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you all for your answers.
My DH and his friend are both attorneys, DH is high up in-house and his friend built his own practice.[/quote]

Money is pointless here. Seems like both your DH and his friend have plenty of money. No one is going to notice $300 - $400, in other words, it's not a meaningful gift. Frankly, I'd feel a bit offended, not at the sum involved but the laziness.

Instead of $400 cash, give a $400 bottle of wine. Or something ephemeral and luxurious. Or see if you can get a very nice dinner fully paid for (something that'd normally cost $400 for two people, including wine pairing). Something that is a bit more thoughtful then gee, another check or envelope of cash. If someone gave me a check or cash for that amount, it'd probably sit around for months before being deposited given I rarely go to the bank in person nor use cash to pay for things.

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What is “plenty of money”?
OP here. While we are ok, we don’t have “plenty of money” and I never tried $400 bottle of wine. Both my DH and his friend from lower middle class background and both are solid middle class. 
He gave us $300 for our wedding 10 years ago and we were very happy about the money. We used all the cash gifts to pay for a wonderful honeymoon in Hawaii.
Also his parents are both dead and he is paying for a wedding. His bride is of a lower income.
I don’t know what world this forum lives in to consider attorneys some spoiled brats. We are not like that.[/quote]

NP.  Give cash!  I'm from the Northeast and envelopes of cash for weddings are the norm.  It's so nice to get a bunch of cash before you go on your honeymoon, or just to fill up your checking account to buy things you need for married life.  I don't get why anyone would think a $400 bottle of wine is more "normal" than cash???  I know very, very few people who buy bottles like that, and the ones who do, ALSO give cash for wedding gifts!  The only people I have encountered who think cash is gauche but a porcelain doo-dad is just great are from the South (my DH is from the south).  My side of the family & friends gave cash.  His side gave us vases and silver platters and picture frames.  Guess who's gifts were more appreciated???[/quote]

I'm from the northeast too. We tend to give gifts, not cash.

I still see cash as tacky and not very thoughtful. Just me, I suppose. [/quote]

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