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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure where to post this- real estate- home improvement - relationship- but here goes as the bottom line I need help with is relationship- although help on the project issue would be equally helpful.
    So my DH wanted a pool and poolhouse forever- but I’m pretty tight and don’t like buying bad investments- however he reminded me marriage is compromise and I have gotten some things and he wants this- my things btw, are more investment than just fun. 
   Year ago after much saving we pulled trigger / then  poolhouse builder takes our 100k and literally disappears last month-  We were 70% done on poolhouse but we have now learned he stole the money and forged the paid invoices. So all the subcontractors are coming after us. It’s been devasting. Not only because this sits in our backyard unfinished- but we lost so much money and all these folks are coming out of woodwork filing liens etc.
  [b]  I am primary breadwinner and we buy this stuff with my bonuses. [/b]
 So I am furious about this! And can’t get past my anger. I never wanted this stupid poolhouse - gave up my backyard to build it ( we have small yard)- and now it’s ruined our holidays and each day getting worse. That knock on the door as another lien is sent to us. 
      I feel so angry that this cost so much of our savings- and has ended up Being emotionally devastating. I’m scared and not sure what to do.
 I also actually feel aggravated because we had no business with both of us working taking on this big a project - we haven’t had time to pick things and make decisions so took us forever - And now we’ll never get out from under it.
  He says this is not worth ruining our family and marriage and I KNOW that. But can’t help feel so mad! And unfortunately I’m directing it at him. One side note- I feel like now he is leaning on me too much to find solution. 
    I also get angry that he doesn’t make the right decision and now can’t fix it! I am tired of handling it all!  I know I’m totally in the wrong. [/quote]

I'm sorry, OP.  the whole situation sucks.

But you need to adjust that attitude.  That money is the family's money and it belongs to both of you.[/quote]

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