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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Met at 18. Dated 9 years. Married for 17 now. I think each couple is unique. My husband and I talked about moving in together after college- which is what we did. I would never marry someone I had not cohabitated with; that’s my personal choice. We bought a house and had someone rent our basement. We agreed we would not get engaged until she moved out, because we didn’t want to scare her off. We liked the rent money! We got married 8 months after she moved out.

Ironically, people used to say the same thing to me once I was 25+ and not engaged- “he’s just stringing you along.” Why did they think it was his decision and not mine? That’s just archaic thinking- and it always bothered him more than me. We made our plan and it worked for us. People who think we waited too long are small-minded- and many of them are now divorced.[/quote]

25 is nothing and you met in HS. However, after 35, the biology is not on the woman's side, and I'm saying this as a mom who had her 2nd at 41 y/o. Unless one freezes her eggs, which is incredibly $$$$ and not guaranteed to work, if a woman wants to get married and have kids, she should not waste her time in her late 20s / early 30s on someone who is not ready to commit TO HER. Men can have their first in their late 50s, we don't have that luxury. I also see a lot of couples getting married in their middle to late 30s and starting having kids right away. They basically have zero time to enjoy their marriage as a couple without kids.    [/quote]

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