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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I’m in a similar situation but with different details.   I’m sure I’m partly to blame, but my husband is basically a jerk to me in private as default, but a great guy outside the house.   I’m still in a should I stay or should I go point.  I was about to work that out with a therapist, then COVID hit and it’s just too much.

But I’ve realized I HAVE to let go of “being right.”  He’s never going to acknowledge that he’s a jerk, so I just need to let that go.

So my recommendation is to see a therapist alone to talk this thru, then if they recommend it, see a marriage counselor if you think that would help.   If not, see a divorce attorney.

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I hear you, but how do you just allow someone to speak to you in this way or literally present a complete false reality?
I’m insulted and blazing mad that he is framing things where HE is 100% at fault, as my fault.
He didn’t follow thru on the deposit he was supposed to make. He’s framing it as “because you failed to communicate or have a long term convo on financial planning.” Dude. No. We had the convo. I was to do x and you were to do y. You didn’t do your part.

Now he’s framing the reason we aren’t “living a certain lifestyle” is because I haven’t read investing books and The only one putting thought or effort into making it possible is him? Am I living in the twilight zone? I’ve been the breadwinner for 5 years and had the only stable job income and benefits. He’s been freaking freelancing for 4 of the last 5 years. I have carried this family. And I will NOT be gas lighted, manipulated, and blamed by a narcissist.[/quote]

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