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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I can relate....my brother is similar. Those that don't get it, don't get it. [/quote]

Totally agree. My brother is the same and I have had to draw major boundaries for my own mental health and self esteem. Until a person has been verbally and mentally beaten down repeatedly, they can’t understand what that feels like.

Op, it sounds like you are doing the right thing and also examining your role in the dynamic. I have a similar situation with my parents also, except they are the ones constantly asking me to talk about it and I have tried to keep everything light and not discuss my brother . If I were you, I would just try to avoid the topic as much as you can and also avoid those types of scenarios with your brother.

I have finally gotten to a point where I have accepted that it doesn’t matter if I do whatever my brother asks, or I do whatever I want. He will still have his thoughts, but that doesn’t mean he is right. Once I realized that, it has been very liberating for me. I don’t really care what he or my parents think anymore as far as how much I interact with him or how I live my life. I am still there for my family but I don’t do anything where it compromises my own mental/physical  health or that of my own family.

Good luck, it’s a tough dynamic to break when you have been conditioned to interact this way your entire life. Hang in there![/quote]

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