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[quote=Anonymous]OP update. My mom wanted a meeting with the 3 of us. We went to dinner and my mom and I sat across from my brothers. After ordering I suggested my mom start the meeting. Immediately 1 brother says, “ok mom let’s hear your scripted statement like Biden”.  Immediately that made her uncomfortable of course but I reassured her to just tell them what she wants and how she feels. She went on to tell them she appointed me as her POA because I don’t work and have the time, motivation, skill and knowledge of all her medical issues and assets. She told them they both have very busy social  lives;  girlfriends, gfs families, friends, golfing, football, pool halls, traveling etc…     They responded with, “that’s all BS and you should’ve told us first you were appointing her your POA instead of keeping it secret and we don’t trust her, she’s not good with money”.  Which is hilarious being the brother saying this has had so many judgements filed against him and just recently didn’t pay her cc causing it to be declined plus I found out business invoices are not being paid because he’s not keeping accurate bookkeeping.  My mom was in charge of the bookkeeping for 50 yrs until this past Aug with zero issues!

Next subject was selling her home. . Oldest brother looks at her with tears in his eyes, “mom do you really want to sell your lifelong family home?” She responds, “what the hell do I need it for? I don’t live there anymore”.  I was nervous how she would respond but was thrilled a her response. She’s such a rational intelligent woman.   Youngest brother starts with we can rent it and I said that won’t produce enough income to pay for her care plus the taxes will skyrocket once it loses its homestead so it needs to be sold plus she can get 100k extra now with the market.  They both started yelling at me.   After they calmed down the youngest, who stays at her house half  the week, tells my mom in a very low voice that a friend of a friend who’s in town that had a death in the family needed a place to stay so he offered a room at her house for the weekend.  My mom said what?! I said what?!

I went to her house and took pictures of this persons duffel bag with clothes spilling out of it and a transistor radio with a bent antenna in her bathroom. Omg I can’t make any of this up. I guarantee my brother has put my moms house on Airbnb.  I took pics of my moms very  expensive porcelain collection as well.

I am putting her house on the market ASAP, eldest brother told me he’s hiring an attorney to fight me and that mom only tells me what I want to hear so she won’t hurt my feelings. I asked my mom about all this and she assured me she wants to stay right where she is and to hold my ground with my brothers!  I told her I will but you need to support and trust my decisions.  I told her you can’t tell me one thing and tell them another because it’s creating even more of a egregious situation.
  I’m consulting with an elder attorney just to confirm my decision making and put me at ease.   [/quote]

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