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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want to ask my husband to leave the Air Force Reserve. We met while he was an active duty Air Force pilot. With the reserve requirements, he’s flying 2x per month minimum and has been called out several times to do search and rescue and support for disasters like the recent tornadoes in Kentucky. He left full time active duty because it was difficult for me to start and have my career. I appreciate the sacrifice he made. However, now that[b] I[/b]’m ready to start a family I’m afraid the Air Force Reserve duty will mane it difficult for [b]me[/b] to be a Mom and to still continue [b]my[/b] career. However, I’m also afraid asking him to completely give up flying will crush him. Any advice? [/quote]

[b]What kind of career do you have that is worth for a pilot to give up his career?[/b] How many hours a week do you currently work at your job? What is your title?
What have you given up to marry your DH?

How long have you been married?
How old are you and DH?
How long ago did DH go from active duty to Reserves? How many years did he have in Active duty, how many in Reserves?  What is his rank?

How far away is family, yours and his?
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Not OP but...The question in bold is downright insulting. It implies that some careers are not worthy enough for him to give up being in the reserves. I'm not advocating OP's husband leave the reserves, but it's deeply misogynistic to imply that the woman must be engaged in something others deem "worthy" enough.

Just beyond amazing how posters here will devolve into "men, worthy, but women must [i]prove[/i] their worth" thinking so quickly.

OP, I hope you won't feed this antique attitude by trying to defend whatever your career is. No one will find it worthy enough, on this thread. [/quote]

I’m female.
I’m aware there are jobs one can work at all over the country and some jobs only available in select cities or regions of that industry.
I also know the difference between highly skilled specialist jobs and lower skilled jobs.
Same for highly paid jobs or low paid jobs. 
It’s all supply and demand no matter how many quotas the govt or activists will try to conjur up.

You make $50k as a flight attendant, teacher, nurse, or entry accountant. All different lifestyles and paths.[/quote]

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