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[quote=Anonymous]See, OP, there is really just no way to express the things you wanted to express without seeming just a little bit condescending to parents who put their kids in daycare. A couple things of note that PPs already mentioned:

1. Your choice to stay home with your children is one opportunity afforded to you by your privilege. Many families need two incomes to stay financially afloat, not to mention the single parents who do not have an additional income to rely on. Have a little bit of humility and recognize that when you say that it seems "unnatural" to you to put your child into someone else's care, there is really no way for that statement to be met with anything but hurt feelings or anger. I agree that it's unfortunate that we live in a society in which not everyone has the choice that you had.

2. It sounds like your choice to stay home was actually pretty easy for you. You tried daycare for a few weeks, you realized that you wanted to stay home with your child, and then you quit your job to stay home. Many of the women who could afford to do what you did simply don't want to do it. I am one of those women. My job is not particularly impressive, but I enjoy it and am good at it. I worked pretty hard to get where I am now, and while I toyed with the idea of staying home with DD when she was small, I am very glad that I did not do that. See PP's post about all the things that her kids learned in daycare. Above and beyond that, I feel like a much more complete person working during the weekdays and spending my mornings, evenings and weekends playing with DD. I'm sure that you understand how hard it is to be at home with small children all day. Some of us just are just happier working. It doesn't mean that we love our children any less than you love yours.

3. When you talk about who is "raising" your kids, please recognize that having multiple people imparting values to your children is a negative thing only if you are frightened by the values of other people. My personal solution, as a mom who works full time, was to make an effort to get to know the people who take care of DD all day. I welcome their input and views on the world. Many people will influence your child over his/her lifetime. It is this multiplicity of worldviews that grow a well rounded and inquisitive personality.[/quote]

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