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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 51 and [b]I remember a lot of girls getting involved with boys in 6th grade and getting in way over their head by early teens. 
The girls were typically of low self-esteem, unmotivated at school, and not well supervised. I also recall the boys treating these girls very poorly and I'm sure it affected their future relationships. I'm sorry if that sounds critical, but that's how I remember it. This should have been discouraged earlier. 
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My friends were high achievers-- we had "crushes" in middle school but no one had a boyfriend until we were at least 15-16 or older. We were busy with music, grades, youth group, and other activities. [/quote]

How do you know what actually happened between these kids if they weren't your friends?  First-hand knowledge?  How?[/quote]

Yes, there were girls in my neighborhood that (by 6th grade) were having boys over while their parents were at work. They talked about it openly.

There was also a lot of drama, break ups, gossip, etc. I'm not putting anyone down--I had a single mom and very little supervision myself. I don't know why I didn't go down this road, except that I was a nerd and boys weren't very interested in me...by the time they were, I was older and making good decisions.

I think we can agree that OP's DD needs more supervision and boundaries + activities that will increase self esteem. It's okay to tell kids that they're too young for dating, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc.

I have a DS15 and have encouraged him to develop friendships with girls, but not relationships. I know that will eventually happen regardless of my opinion, but the goal is to delay it until he's more mature. [/quote]

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