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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for some of the recommendations here. I lift 4-5 times a week and don't sport a beer belly.

Wife has been discontent and we've been in therapy for a while. I admit and have admitted to her that I have been lazy and selfish. I am however a very involved dad. The laziness was more towards our relationship. Over the course of therapy, I had changed my behavior and was working hard to be a partner and not a roommate.

Thanks for some of the guidance. As one poster said, get a lawyer and cry later. That's what I'm in the process of doing right now. [/quote]

Why did you let it get to that point?  Nobody gets married thinking "I'm going to be a lazy and selfish roommate", right?

You may benefit from reading Must Be This Tall To Ride.[/quote]

I was spending more time at work and then when home, with the kids. Our relationship suffered. By the time the kids were in bed, I was too tired to engage, as was she. That was one of the reasons for her first emotional affair. [/quote]

It's good that you recognize that. FWIW, that was the reason for my own divorce. But you should [i]forget about it[/i] for now. No further thoughts about why things failed until after the divorce is final. You need to stay focused on getting through this divorce with the minimum time and money spent on lawyers, with the best outcome for your kids (which is 50/50 custody in which you remain very involved), and with an equitable share of the marital estate going to you. Always remember that your STBXW has made herself your adversary in this proceeding. Never doubt that her lawyer will remind her of that if she forgets it. I am sure you've been dumped before, and this will be like that - she will treat you coldly and ruthlessly.

Sounds like you probably already understand this, though.[/quote]

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