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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for all your thoughts.  To be clear, I don't think my friend is a sanctimommy.

I was trying to think of a good example of what bothers me - She'll talk with absolute confidence about potty training when someone asks a question, but she has yet to train her child, who is 2.  How can you be so sure about potty training when you've never done it?  She went to a potty training class though.

I just try to remember that we have different lives- not judging either as better or worse, just different. She has one child and stays at home.  Said child is 2.  I have 3 children, 2 of whom are older than hers.  I work out of the home.[/quote]

[b]You are leaving out the fact that she's also been a kindergarten teacher, who in her early education training has probably observed and taught dozens of children in various stages of potty training, in addition to having taken a class on it (and who of us "normal" moms have done this?[/b]). Parents also unload a lot of personal anecdotes about potty training, feeding, etc., so all of that information gets registered into a kindergarten teacher's bank of knowledge. [b]Remember that most of us moms have potty trained two kids, which isn't much more than one, and have read maybe a couple of books on the topic. [/b]

If your friend seems spot-on most of the time, take advantage of it! Don't turn it into a negative. [/quote]

This is so true. I taught K and 1st grade and have spent so much time in grad classes and research on early childhood development and have known and watched so many different parents that I do just know a ton of stuff that my friends who are lawyers, doctors, consultants et al, just don't know.

I think the issue with them is that they are not used to being the LEAST knowledgeable person in a room. Usually they feel like they are the smartest in a room, but being a law partner does not prepare you for stand offs with a 3 year old, and as a former teacher, I am ready for battle :) and have lots of useful tips for them. It is a turning of the tables for many highly educated women.

The women who have good self esteem get it and ask me for tips and advice all the time, the ones who think I am a know it all are usually know it alls themselves that are just pissed because they don't know it all about kids. [/quote]

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