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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We’re exactly this type of couple, OP. Two former athletes and high achievers who met at Harvard Business School. Attractive and have done very well professionally. (Well enough that I don’t even think about our income anymore, just our net worth. We’re mid 30s and worth several million.)

What I can tell you is that we’re all just born this way/different. DH and I are high energy and super disciplined. It’s just naturally who we are. We have plenty of Type B (or less Type A friends) and I am often annoyed and fascinated by them. What do you mean it’s the Tuesday before thanksgiving and you haven’t planned out your oven schedule yet?! Get. It. Together! Oh wow, you took that disappointment so well - wish I were as cool as a cucumber like you.

So know that these people are not superior to you. And they’re not inferior to you either. Just simply different. [/quote]

Op here. That’s so interesting. What drives you? What were you like a child? How were you raised?

I don’t have the drive and discipline but want all the things they have. I want a nice body. I want a nice house. I want to be well planned and organized.I want to be disciplined and pass on these traits and habits to my children.

What can I do since I’m not naturally like this? [/quote]

Hmm. Good questions. I’m reminded of a quote I read as a kid. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit.” I think this is a big part of it - just having consistently high expectations of myself. For example, I considered replying to this tomorrow when I could give it more thought and time. I always think like that: how can I be excellent in this task.

I personally was like this as a kid. I loved school and was super organized. Apparently teachers commented on it even. I grew up MC and always looked at the fancy people on the nice side of town. I knew I was as smart as them, but that I just didn’t have the same set of cards. Decades later I’ve honestly lapped most them professionally/financially. I got ahead with smarts, luck, and sheer work ethic - I learned quickly that I could outwork them. Not all, but many.

I’ll also say I really, really enjoy delayed gratification. I think you have to focus on the joy of the prize 6, 12, 18 months away and know that it will always be sweeter than the prize today.

I’m not saying this is full proof. I’m literally in therapy for my perfectionism. But I can wholeheartedly say that if I had to do it all over again, I would much rather be born Type A than not. [/quote]

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