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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm confused by all you people suggesting hotel.

OP raised no other issues with the ILs.  Apparently the stay is fine.  What happens is that there is not as much food as they want, and likely the stray comment once or twice a day.  OP seems to have found a workaround that feeds her family.

Doesn't every family have some aspects that you don't like?  My dad picks at his toenails and I can't stand it.  My mom frequently complains about something.  My MIL makes lots of remarks that either intentionally or unintentionally compare my DH to my BIL.  It is all annoying.  But do we really expect perfection from anyone, much less family?[/quote]

I think if you haven't dealt with this form of mental illness you don't get it.

[b]Denying someone a basic need like food, and verbally abusing them for having basic needs,[/b] isn't the same as an annoying habit.

I grew up with a parent like this.  I lived in a house that recently sold for $1.4 million, and went to school at a pricy private school where my parents paid full tuition, and bed hungry every day of my childhood.  A huge part of my childhood was figuring out how I could either earn money (babysitting, dog walking, etc . . . by the time I was 9), or get invited to someone's house who had snacks. [/quote]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that growing up, sincerely.

But that is not what OP describes.  Nobody is "denied" food and everybody eats.  And OP described the comments as "grumbling."  That is not verbal abuse.[/quote]

Criticizing a child for eating lunch is verbal abuse.  [b]OP is just acclimated to it and so isn't describing it that way[/b].  [/quote]

You are projecting.  The bolded may be true.  Another thing that may be true is that they are old people who don't eat a lot, have a disordered attitude toward food and are anxious about messes and disruption in their house.  So they don't provide as much food as they should and get stare and question the two times a day the OP provides additional food.

And she never said that any of the comments were directed at the kids or were critical of the kids.

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