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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I don't understand. You take clothes out of the drawer and put them on. My two year old doesn't get a say in getting dressed. Are you expecting your two year old to dress themselves?[/b][/quote]

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Listen, I get it. If you have a 2 year old who just allows themselves to be dressed, this probably sounds really foreign to you. But some kids fight it. Hard. Mine started when she was even younger, basically as soon as she had the verbal skills to argue with me about it. "I don't want to wear that, I don't want to get dressed, I don't like clothes, I don't like that color" etc.

And guess what? One of the best ways to address it turned out to let her get dressed on her own. I'd put out a few options, tell her she had five minutes, and leave the room. Sometimes she'd make me stay but not let me help. Sometimes she'd ask for help. But literally the only way to get her in clothes was to let her take control. Plus side: she developed the ability to physically dress and undress herself really early, which helps with potty training and lots of preschool activities where they are expected to be independent in those areas.

The funny thing is that she's 4 now and I pick out her clothes again. It happened gradually, but I could see it was stressing her out to have to choose and I started removing more and more choice from the process. Now I go in the her room while she eats breakfast and pick out a whole outfit including socks and underwear, she doesn't choose any of it. She does put it on herself, though.

Kids are weird and they develop different things at different times. You just have a different kind of kid.[/quote]

[b]I'm the original PP. My two year old absolutely does not allow herself to get dressed, it's a huge battle. She screams and runs and it's a headache. But I'm the parent, and I'm bigger than her, and I get her dressed. I really just don't understand the mechanics of an hour long struggle here. Pick out clothes, put them on.[/b][/quote]

The two bolded quotes above are the same person? Sorry, but.. which is it? You say getting your two year old dressed is a "huge battle" and she screams and runs and it's a headache, but also that you don't understand why OP is having an issue and that you don't understand the hour long struggle. This makes no sense.

OP's question makes perfect sense and someone who is arrestingly a screaming child who is running away into clothes every morning should get that. I mean, I guess great it doesn't take you a full hour to get your kid dressed, but that just indicates to me that your kid isn't resisting as hard, not that you solved this incredibly common problem.

Also, you're kid is still two and you need to learn FAST that what you think you know about parenting today is not what you will know about parenting in about three months. Kids change so much at this age and you'll think "oh, I guess we're dealing with tantrums and independent now, but I figured it out!" And then 6 months later you will look back at the person who thought that and laugh and laugh at how naive she was.[/quote]

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