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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, OP. I have a similar situation with my stepmother. My mom died when I was little, and my stepmother raised us. She is closer to my sister, who married a wealthy doctor. While both of us have children, my step is always crowing about how wonderful my sister's family is, bragging about her kids, their travels, etc. Even my kids have noticed the favoritism, although I deny it in front of them because I feel like I should.

Unfortunately, I think you just need to accept that your mother has limitations, and one of them is that she is unable to demonstrate her love for you in the way that you crave. It doesn't sound like there's really anything to do to change that. You just need to find it in your heart to forgive her. I would not bring it up with her again, since it doesn't sound like that has worked well.

Meanwhile, you need to fight the jealousy you feel toward your sister. This isn't her fault--as you said, she naturally has a personality and lifestyle closer to your mom's, so the relationship seems easier. Eventually, when your mom is gone, your relationship with your sister and her children will remain, so be careful not to damage it.

Good luck, OP.

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I’m sorry that you are in this situation. I would suggest that you not deny the favoritism that your kids have noticed. Don’t gaslight them like that. Acknowledge it and assure them that it has nothing to do with them personally and that you love them and think they are great. My aunt clearly favored my brother when we were growing up and my parents just recently confirmed what I had been saying for years. It felt much better to have them acknowledge that my perception was correct. [/quote]

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