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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The biggest issue jumping out from your post is that you don't want to go on vacation with your husband, for many reasons, and the thought of having alone time and sex with him gives you anxiety.  That is a massive red flag.  Not sure if you realize how that sounds, but to me I can't see your marriage lasting much longer.

He is totally in the wrong on not planning the vacation, and you need to discuss this.  [b]But you bedroom was dead before this.[/b]

I would tell him all of this, the anxiety, the fear of being intimate.  You might as well unpack it.  Hopefully you will be able to offer solutions as to what you need to feel loved and valued in the marriage and he can do the same.[/quote]

I doubt the bedroom was dead to a fully engaged, loving man who planned vacations.

It has been 15 years and he has NEVER planned a vacation. I can't even imagine how many other things he does not do.

[b]OP, Can your husband order Chinese carryout or do you have to do that too?[[/b]/quote]

Not OP, but this nails it. Can I tell you about the time my in-laws were passing through sort of unexpectedly and I told my husband that I was sorry but I would be home late and to do whatever he wanted for dinner and I'd join or get my own - and I was REALLY SORRY. And then I came home at 7:30pm to everyone sitting on the couch (including a 9 and 5 year old) and my husband literally asked, "What did you want to do for dinner?" and the only thing that allowed me to hold it together was my MIL's look of complete understanding in that moment.

My marriage has been dead for years. I haven't been married to a partner, much less a man, since day one. I wish I would have come to that realization a long time ago. [/quote]

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