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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op is only talking about the physical act.

It’s so much more complex than that.[/quote]

Yeah, OP, are you just envisioning "cheating" in a vacuum?  Like a one-time hook-up?  Just a sexual act, nothing more?

Because cheating is rarely that.  And if that IS what you're talking about -- say, a one-night stand on a business trip with someone he'll never see again -- I think a lot of women wouldn't divorce over that, so you're not alone there.  But cheating involves making you look like a fool -- lying to your face, kissing you without washing off first, etc -- and that's hard to get over and still feel loving toward the person who did that to you.[/quote]

If you husband is having sex with other men, it could very well be just that.[/quote]

NP.  I think what you're not getting is that it's not only about what he thinks but also about what she thinks.  If your spouse is clear on monogamy, it's a hard boundary for her.  If you cross it, it engenders distrust, feeling like you are not valued and the disrespect.  It doesn't matter that it was just sex for you because it was a hard boundary for her.  [/quote]

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