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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, I don’t have kids and this worries me for sure. But I did not want to spend twenty years of my life raising kids and pregnancy sounds terrifying to me. So I opted out. I am terrified for old age, but I did not think it was a good idea to have kids just do that reason.

That said, practically everyone I know just puts their parents in a nursing home anyway. How many people - well, white Americans anyway - do you know who live with their parents, or nearby enough and go by a few times a week? I don’t know anyone who does that.[/quote]

It’s not so much about being the one who dies the day to day care,it’s more about being an advocate for your parent. For example, it’s usually the family members who notice the early signs of dementia and Alzheimer’s. If you’re on your own, things could get really bad before you’re in a position where you have to get help. [/quote]

As someone going through this with my mom now, I have to admit it's something that worries me. I have an older friend who's asked me to be her medical advocate but I know there is no way that I will be as attuned to what is going on with her as I am with my parents - and I don't really have the bandwidth to try, even, honestly. (I have told her as much.)

When we get to be older - gd willing - I don't really know how we'll handle that. Perhaps given how many people haven't had kids, there will be better services and options in place. Or, we just run the risk of having worse ends of life because we chose not to have children. That seems possible, too. We traded the middle years we wanted for the possibility of worse later years. [/quote]

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