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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“ women not wanting kids is unnatural”. No, you’re thinking is wrong. [/quote]
+1. Sex is pleasurable so nature tricks us into having kids.

I did get the biological urge for kids, but intellectually I wished that I wouldn't. I knew life would be far easier and I would be free if I didn't have kids. But I had to scratch that itch. I love my children more than any other people, but I envy those who do not want kids and don't have them. [/quote]

I had always been told I would get that urge for kids and never did. But I eventually developed an intellectual/emotional desire to have kids -- it felt like something my life was ready for and like a challenge I would enjoy and was up to. And I was right. It was only after having one kid that I experienced what other women had told me about with those pangs to have a child (in my case, another one).

Interestingly, those pangs were hard to ignore but I once again listened to my brain and reason. My DH and I definitely had the urge for another kid but did not feel like it would be the right choice for our family. So we ignored those feelings and eventually they passed (I really think they were hormonal) and now I'm soooooo glad we didn't have another just because my body was like "yes please I want to be pregnant."

Just another perspective. I do think the hormonal urge to procreate is real, but not everyone experiences it the same way. And it's not the only or best reason to have kids. Nor does having that feeling mean you have to have kids to be happy. Hormones are always temporary -- don't let them trick you into stuff.[/quote]

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