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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I’m a Program Manager make $200k. He’s a construction work with diploma. We both have one kid. Is this doomed before it starts?[/quote]

It’s not necessarily the money per say, it’s how the second shift plays out with kids (i.e what’s the division of labor look like), potentially having raised your kids differently and how that plays out in a blended family (I.e. are you on the same page about college , what you buy for kids versus what they earn or don’t get or would it be two different messages) and how comfortable you both are with the differences in your background.  Sometimes people reflect their own insecurities on you, worried you would look down or move on etc. or think they aren’t x enough so they want to humble you or bring you down about those things. I have friends that had that experience when they were dating guys with a different education level. At a minimum, I think you would both have to be really strong communicators to have a chance of making it work.

The people I know where the woman earns more than the man and it seems okay, they either met when they were young and by the time they had kids together the guy either caught up/exceeded her in salary or he makes enough now that he wouldn’t be considered low earner even though he makes less.  The other scenario is he becomes a SAHD to support her highly lucrative, but not flexible career or he has a white collar, yet somewhat family friendly job, like being a teacher.  Coming into it with each having their own children, difference in salary, and difference in education level - where you aren’t necessarily building together and learning together is more complicated.[/quote]

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