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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Its a long road. Youre building a family unit that hopefully will last for decades. I have 4 but think one more would be great. Not concerned about Disney trips or them not playing 2 sports. Thinking of them having eachother when im not around anymore. My brother just spent 2 days test driving cars for me a few states away. Other sibling not in picture. [b]Hedge your bets with more kids in case one is a dud.[/b][/quote]

This is the most honest response I've seen on DCUM in a while. My mom had a second to give me a sibling, in her words, and as children we weren't close and as adults she's fine, but not someone that adds value to my life or even really my parents' life as an adult child. Have more kids because YOU want them. They could turn out to be your child's life long BFF, or they could turn out to be a life long source of stress and resource-taker. And a lot of those close siblings as children grow more and more distant as adults. There is no predicting, so don't worry about it beforehand. [/quote]

My younger sister grew up to be abusive to me and we're estranged. I have spent thousands of dollars on therapy to heal from her abuse. These threads about how many kids to have, how to space them, and what those things mean for sibling relationships and child development, etc etc, are always nonsense. Instead your focus should be on being an excellent parent, whether you have one kid or five. My sister and I didn't have excellent parents. It shows.[/quote]

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