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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who say "no" are delusional.

I don't know any family where having a second kid didn't impact the first one.

They definitely get less attention from parents. Most drop out of some of their activities or never do the ones they wanted to because driving them to those is hard with a little kid in tow.  There is less money to spend, so they miss expensive camps, expensive activities, sometimes they lose private school education.  I could go on and on.  [/quote]

I am a person earlier who said I think my kid thinks yes but that I am not sure. The reason I think she would say yes (although she is 6) is because of the things you listed above.

But I also feel like my daughter has the type of personality where she could easily become a Veruca Salt. She doesn't like being denied things and being told no. Having siblings has taught her sharing and what it means to be a part of a group where you can't always be the star at every time. She has had to occasionally take the back seat and learn about her own strengths and weaknesses. And she absolutely loves her brother.

So I feel like these things are not always cut and dried. It's like inheriting 100M dollars at birth. In some ways sure that is great, and its certainly better than growing up food insecure or in poverty. But there is a middle ground there that is probably actually healthier. Getting everything you want and not being challenged is not good for kids.[/quote]

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