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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean this with kindness. Do not have a third. Don’t. Trust me. It’s really really hard with two parents who work. Your health and your marriage especially will take a major hit. You won’t listen but at least I told you so. [/quote]

I'm listening. Why is 3 so much harder? I love my job and I don't plan to give it up, but I do feel bad having a sitter on the weekends because we have a nanny from 8:30-5:30 from M-F. I work in a corporate role, but am remote. That might make 3 easier, right? [/quote]

I am a year into my third. My husband and I both work but for the fed so we have it “easier” than private employees. I used to work for a private accounting firm. Anyway. Here are the reasons it is hard:

Money—daycare plus everything else plus cost of traveling with a third, doing anything with a third, all the kid expenses etc. 
Time - one on one time with each child is very hard. It takes planning and sacrifice and even then I often fall short. To the extent I succeed it is because of my fed job and sacrificing me time or marriage time or sleep. 
Doing things — this will change and evolve but right now we can’t do fun stuff as a family as much because of naps and baby being too young to enjoy certain activities/ risk of getting cranky. As a result one of us usually stays with baby while other parent takes kids skiing or swimming or on a long car ride somewhere etc. I miss doing things as a family unit. 
Extra curriculers- our oldest kids are not yet interested in sports which is good because there would be no time to make this happen. If/when that changes it will be a hair pulling logistical nightmare.

You can completely love and adore your kids while wishing you hadn’t been so hasty to have a third. [/quote]

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