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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I were that girl, I'd be resentful being the poor nanny's daughter living in a pool house. I'd resent not having privacy or independence. I'd resent doing this all to support the rich lady in the big house. [/quote]

The house isn’t that big!  It’s three bedrooms, single story.   OP here and we are far from rich.  And we employ her mother - we don’t support her.  Her mother works for a living like I do.

But I’m sure there will be bumps in the road.  I was a teenager too.  She’s really a great, secure kid.  And will still have privacy from us and her own bedroom.  And whatever lack of independence she endures will be her mothers call not mine.  [/quote]
You are rich compared to her. [/quote]

Then I was also rich to her for the last 1.5 years when she lived six miles away. [/quote]
Yep. Key being "six miles away".[/quote]

So I won’t be rich to her if they live six miles away?  You think I should deny them the guest house and have them find their own place?

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Not the PP. This defensiveness is honestly giving me second thoughts about whether this is a good idea. This almost-teen will be changing schools, moving away from friends and support, and going from being in the majority at her current school to the minority at the new one (either racial or socioeconomic or both).

If you aren't 100% prepared for there to be some bumps in the road, and to extend some grace when this sweet 12 year-old becomes a resentful 14 year-old, then you need to dig deep and figure out if this is really a good idea. [/quote]

Whoa!  Way to live in stereotypes?!  So you assume this girl is some Latina from the barrio who can’t hack the rich, white suburbs?!  You assume she isn’t coming from a wealthy suburb?

And I have a 15 year old we moved at the same age who is neither resentful nor unhappy to be at a better school.

NP here, btw.

OP, our nanny moved with us and loves her new city.  She lived with us until she met her husband and got married.  We have younger kids too so she’s still our nanny.

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