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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What would you do in this situation?

DH’s aunt (super sweet and caring lady) recently foisted her adult daughter’s childhood Halloween costumes and dressy prom-type attire on me for my young kids to “grow into”. These items are well over 30 years old. Her daughter is in her late 30s and has no children. The catch is that the aunt told me she may want the items back in the future if her daughter has children. I don’t even want these items to borrow (I won’t use them for my kids - they’re just not my style, outdated and musty). Now do I have to store them on the off-chance she asks for them back in a few years? Or can I dispose of them and then figure out what to say if she ever does want them back? I really don’t want to hang into them. But I don’t want to hurt her feelings. My other option is to foist them on DH’s sister who has younger kids than mine. But that seems cruel. :)

Thoughts?

And BTW - this is a lesson to me I’m not holding onto my kids’ childhood items… no one is going to want them 30 years from now![/quote]

Learn how to say no. It's liberating.

You can start now by ringing up the aunt and telling her[b] you appreciate the costumes but the children will not be wearing them [/b]so what would she like done with them [/quote]

No, you do not lie and say you appreciate them if you do not. You need to be direct. "No thank you. Our kids do not want the costumes. Also, we do not take items that may need to be returned in the future." Any manipulations she tries you just keep repeating "no." Otherwise you leave the door open for this to continue...and it will.[/quote]

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