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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I know you said you're leaning toward no, but your posts have me thinking you really really feel this should happen. The fact you mention how DH and his family talk blithely about how fun it was to have all the cousins jammed on floors together....well, they are seeing that through rose-colored glasses remembering their younger years. They're not thinking it through as adults.

You have SO many items on this list that would EACH be a reason to say no. It's surprising you don't see that. Add them up and it's just no after no.

DH is allergic to the dog (right? I didn't see it in the long OP but someone mentioned it). That is a HARD no. Dog dander will not magically disappear when the dog leaves--you do realize that, right? Your DH could continue to suffer for days or weeks after the dog is gone. Dander will get into your furniture fabric (even if the dog never lies on the furniture). Even the most well-clipped, short-haired dog has dander; it's not hair; it is invisible; it permeates things. (It's also incredibly rude to bring a pet to someone else's home but I won't get into that aspect. But, yeah, thoughtless and rude.)

The bathroom alone would also be a reason for a hard no to the extra family. Eight adults and one bathroom? Logistically tough but also, please think back to the start of the pandemic. Domestic bathrooms were having a lot of clogs and issues with SO much use. While your group would be going out some--right?--that's a lot of people using a single bathroom in a tight space of time. Our house is newer than yours and we have issues if we have a ton of people over. I know someone posted your bathroom will be fine but I think you're asking for clogs in your very very old plumbing. Not to mention, all eight adults will want showers daily, right? How do you schedule that and still get anyone out the door in a reasonable time? Do you want to be handing guests a shower schedule and saying someone's got to be up extra early if everyone wants a morning shower?

How will you work food? Breakfast buffet of all cold stuff like bagels and cereals? That's fine but do you have space for that, and space enough for eight adults and a kid to eat or will you end up eating in shifts? Are you cool with the fridge being raided and then discovering a guest ate something you had planned to use for a meal, so you're suddenly short?

I think you're twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to accommodate everyone and make everyone happy. You had guests already scheduled. They get priority. Invite-myself-along secondary guests could be fun in a big enough house but that is not the case. Tell the second set of guests, sorry, we already are full up. Your DH should have your back here. If he doesn't and insists, well, he can do the feeding, create the shower schedule, clean up the messes and buy his own allergy meds (and take them without complaint).

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