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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a female, and DH is my only.   I sometimes want to know what it's like to be with someone else, but I'd never do it because it would hurt DH and blow up our marriage.

you already know that you would feel upset if he did this even if you give him a hallpass, so don't do it.

Why not have a three some? Then you could be involved, too.  I would hire someone, rather than pick someone up, and the reason I say this is because there is less chance that the 3rd person would turn this into something personal rather than professional. Plus, the professional would know what she's doing and how she can make it exciting for you both.[/quote]

A threesome is just another form of hall pass. Why should OP do that?

You speak as if a one-time threesome would satisfy whatever OP's DH is wanting. If so--you're pretty naive. Once OP said yes to a threesome, he likely would want to do it again or, if he felt uncomfortable with his wife watching him/participating, he would just start having sex with other women without OP there. Because she said yes to the threesome, once.

It will open up the floodgates, basically, even if he swears "one time will let me work out all my curiosity and we won't do it again."

As for "exciting for you both," from OP's post it sounds as if she is the kind of person who wants sex with someone she cares about and has a history with. That's her DH. The professional basically would be a sex toy for them both. Maybe OP doesn't want that, and isn't going to be turned on by a woman whether OP is watching or participating.

I've seen these "just have a threesome to keep DH happy" posts on these forums before. They seem to assume that the DW should be OK with a threesome with a DH and another woman, as if straight women secretly are going to be just fine with, eventually turned on by, sex involving another woman. It's just not something to assume about everyone. .I think that's a male fantasy. [/quote]
eh.. I'm not saying OP should be ok with it.   I just threw that out there as an alternative for OP. She can take it or leave it.

It may or may not open the floodgates for her DH.  Only OP knows her DH well enough to know this about her DH.

I would not be happy if my DH wanted to sleep with other people, just as I'm sure DH wouldn't be happy if I wanted to.  But, DH knows that he was my only, and if I did express to him my desire to experience something different, he would understand my feelings but he wouldn't want me to act on them.

A threesome would be a way for OP's DH to get some more experience while OP is involved.  If OP doesn't like the idea, then of course she doesn't have to do it. [/quote]

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