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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP have you posted before about this issue?  There is usually a silent treatment post every couple of months. This sounds like a big problem. I would consult an attorney and let your husband know he needs to start therapy. [/quote]

No, I have not posted on this forum prior. Apparently this is a normal issue among relationships if it is a reoccurring topic. How have those other women handled the situation is my question. Seems divorce is the only solution if DH is unwilling to seek help. [/quote]

How often does he pull this?  Do you have kids?[/quote]

One child, the frequency is every few months since Covid started. Any tips on how to get my DH to communicate? or stop this behavior? [/quote]

PP, the silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. Please visit loveisrespect.org and evaluate your relationship.  I’m a bit concerned that you said you can’t leave the house without him getting upset.  I agree with PPs who say that it is such a toxic way of dealing with conflict that it may be an issue that you ultimately divorce over, but I also agree with PPs who say threatening divorce isn’t healthy.

A first step is to go to individual therapy yourself. You need help setting and enforcing boundaries in a healthy way. Examine your own communication style in conflict.  Put in to practice healthy communication techniques for yourself - reflective listening, using I statements instead of you statements, collaborative problem solving, etc.

We can’t control what others do - only what we do. You  can try to change your communication style and see if that has a ripple effect on him. You can learn to set boundaries about the silent treatment.  “I understand that their may be times that you are angry about an issue, but I feel like I am being punished when you give me the silent treatment.  Can we agree to find a solution where you have some time to yourself after an argument, (or we agree not to discuss an issue for a certain period of time or other ideas), but it’s not the silent treatment.

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