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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP the most toxic relationship of my life was one where I was dealing with constant drama from my boyfriend’s teenaged daughter. She was 13 when we started seeing each other and 15 when I finally walked. I loved her and we had some good times together - she actually keeps in touch with me now and is estranged from her father - but her drama basically undermined the relationship and I don’t honestly know if we couldn’t have made it just fine had she been living with her mother and not her father. Some days it just felt like she was jealous of me and we were in competition for the same man - it was weird. No, I don’t think there was anything inappropriate between them. I just think that preteen and teen girls can be very toxic and it can be really hard to parent them from the place of a solid long term relationship, much less a new relationship where you are de facto stepmother but without any really authority in her eyes.

If you’re not really in love with this guy, if you have reservations about him - I would say walk now before things get uglier. [/quote]

This. I never date men with daughters. Of any age. I only date men with sons or men with no kids.[/quote]

I always said I would not date a man with young  daughters. Even adult daughters can be problematic [/quote]

Self hating women are fascinating to me.[/quote]

You’ve clearly never dated anyone with kids lol

Much easier to deal with sons than daughters.[/quote]

I’m dating someone with 2 daughters and I’ve had no issues.

In fact my bf says it’s usually women who are the problem - the women he’s dated get weirdly jealous of his daughters. To the point where they want him to give up custody and not see them anymore.

When I was a kid, my dad dated women who tried to act like my mom and tell me what to do or create rules and try to enforce them. He finally stopped dating when he realized most women didn’t understand boundaries and that he was the parent, not them.

My BFF is married to a man with a teenage daughter she can’t stand, and as an outsider, I can see the problem is 100% her and not the child. Again, she tries to be the mom and enforce rules and has zero boundaries.

I think there’s something seriously wrong with women who can’t get along with other females. It’s like those women who say they can only have male friends because all females are catty/manipulative/etc. No they’re not, the problem is you. [/quote]

Sorry, dear, I get along just fine with other females. I’ve successfully stepparented a girl and a boy from grade school age on. My nieces adore me and come to me for advice with serious issues, often before their mothers. I did not overstep boundaries with the teen daughter, who as I mentioned is now closer to me than to her father with whom she has no relationship at present.

But very glad you got the chance to fully exercise your superiority complex in that post.  :roll: [/quote]

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