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OP,

It's great she told you. She deserves to be commended for that.

I haven't read all the posts here, but as the mother of a teen with special needs, I disagree with the premise that a 14 year old deciding to have sexual relations is automatically mature enough to make that decision, and the consequences regarding birth control and gyn exams, and continued relations with her boyfriend. Perhaps she is! Perhaps she's a very mature and thoughtful 14 year old. I've known some kids like that. But only you can determine that. Some children, even without diagnosed special needs, are actually not mature enough at 14 to handle ALL of what sex entails. They did the deed, but can't imagine all the things that swirl around the deed, and may not be ready to handle long-term relations.

So OP, just because she had sex a few times, doesn't mean she should continue. It depends on the actual reasons why she did this (there could be many, not all sexually related), your relationship and the trust between you, what her personality is, how good she is at impulse control and delayed gratification, and saying no... so many things.

Bets of luck navigating this.

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I kind of agree that 14 is very young for the emotional intensity that goes with a sexual relationship, but the genie is out of the bottle. I think the best thing to do is to be very supportive and make sure she’s staying on an even keel and maintaining a life outside of the relationship - friends, school, etc. [/quote]

oh and I also agree with giving her the space to decide if she wants to continue the relationship or not. [/quote]

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