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[quote=Anonymous]FWIW...

I am a 56yo male and started dating a 58yo woman about 5 months ago.  She had been divorced for many years and had survive cancer and a double mastectomy.  Prior to meeting her, I  had come out of a difficult marriage and a horrible divorce, and hadn't dated in years and had given up hope of a good sex life which caused my drive to plummet.  I felt I was finally ready to date and we luckily crossed paths.  Here is what I want to add to this thread...

I am completely in love with her and she with me.  We both agree that the sex we are having is the best of our lives, and we are doing it a lot.  Our sex drive(s) are what we both felt during our much younger years, but when combined with knowing ourselves, our bodies, and not being afraid to ask for what we want and try things, it's incredible.  It feels normal, natural, hot, loving, and easy - and a regular topic of conversation.  I never imagined that I would be having sex like this at this age.

And this is all despite the fact that our bodies are far from perfect.  We often talk about, accept, and even embrace our imperfections.  For instance, I make an effort to give her pleasure where her breasts once were because I want her to reconnect with those feelings.

So what I found is that our sex drives are largely fueled by our relationship; a bad relationship = low sex drive and visa versa.

Lastly, I will say that even though my marriage was in the crapper, I believe that it could have been saved and our sex life could have come back.  She wasn't willing to go to counseling and put in the work so it unfortunately went to all out war.  But I'm glad it did because the hell I went through was worth the heaven I'm living now.

I wish you all good luck in revitalizing, or continuing, this incredibly important part of your relationship... and life!  [/quote]

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