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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parents definitely play down issues or don’t see how disruptive certain behaviors can be in a group setting.  While I don’t doubt you, OP, as a teacher I have reached out to many parents regarding behavioral issues and they blow it off.  Then they’re shocked when their child isn’t invited back for the next year.

Yes, I’m sure some schools are “heartless” - some parents are completely dismissive.  [/quote]

Parent of a child with behavioral issues here (and other children without issues, so it isn’t 100% me).  What exactly do you expect parents to do about behavioral issues that occur during school?  I do not get the impression that teachers are asking my advice on how they should handle the situation.  And I am not there to deal with it.  What are you looking for from me?  [/quote]

[b]The discussion is about being kicked out of a private school.  You can go to public. [/b] What do I expect parents to do as another parent?  Monitor your kid, work with your kid, model good behavior, have consequences.  We had a friend whose kid was a nightmare for lack of better terms.  Both of our kids had SN.  The kid came over with mom and broke a bunch of my child's toys.  Mom said a bit of glue will fix it and its no big deal.  It was to us and our child.  She refused to supervise, sit in the room with the kids, etc and just wanted to hang out.  I didn't let her invite herself over again.  I also expect you to get parenting help and get your child help.  It goes hand in hand.  If a teacher expresses a concern, you address it at home and have consequences at home.  On the rare occasion mine has acted up at school, I expect apology notes to all involved and lose electronics or something else for a week.  We don't take poor behavior at school lightly.[/quote]

That’s a good point.  I’m sorry.  
We did go public for a little while and ultimately ended up homeschooling that particular child.  Honestly, one of the biggest regrets of my life is doing all of the things you describe to my child when he was in early elementary school.  This wasn’t rate at our house.  It was weekly.  We had years of reports from school, apology letters, taking away toys, books, friends, etc. (we were a no electronics house), giving him stimulants and sedatives. All to this little, little boy.

I hate this trope that all behavioral problems at school can be managed with a big enough carrot or stick at home.  Maybe that is true sometimes, but you are seriously messing with some children and families by repeating that over and over again.  [/quote]

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