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[quote=Anonymous]Hugs to you OP.  From your story, I'm realizing how the layout of my apartment was a huge help in this stage for my family.  (There was no basement to retreat to and her room was close to mine & the living areas).  My DD understood that 24 hour supervision was part of the deal from her therapist - and while she didn't like it, she wasn't resistant to my presence as long as I wasn't fixated on her and appeared to have my own focus.  And it's very important not to over respond to every up and down - I know how impossible that sounds - but this is a marathon, not a sprint - and there will be so many of them.  You will go from despair to elation at tiny things and it's best if you can keep that under control.  I've learned to just take each moment as it comes, not define days/hours as good or bad - and pay close attention to the overall trend.  She might protest & be sour if you sit in the basement with her, but probably secretly like it at the same time - you may have to set up your laptop with headphones & work, or read a book, or fold laundry nearby anyway.  Have a way to subtly trade off with others if possible.  My DH was so obvious about the hand-off, and that always made things so much worse.

DD is being helped by DBT - the skills classes combined with her individual therapy have been incredibly helpful, and medication has provided the necessary lift to help her take it in.  It's extremely expensive and takes a lot of time, but we are finding it worth it.

Good luck - hang in there.  Find scraps of rest & connection to those who can support you whenever you can - this is going to test you like nothing else.  My hair turned completely gray in the last three months.  I'm so so sorry you are having to go through this, and sadly you aren't alone (even though you are so very alone).[/quote]

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