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[quote=Anonymous]Your son is in the same place 99 % of the population of the world is in. Hell, even the GREATEST young players in the history of the US have been middling at best compared to the young kids in soccer crazy countries, and that plays out. I know what you mean though big time. I have two boys: one makes every team he ever tries for while his brother seemed to miss all the athletic genes. I am a dad, and I tell ya my heart aches for my younger boy. It's been enough to be not good enough, but it is another thing to share living space with someone who always has been good enough. Here is the thing though" the sport is teaching my younger son a lesson that my older son will inevitably have to learn. My younger son , ironically, has a chance to explore more interests and to dabble in more things simply because he isn't intoxicated by glory in sport- because he can't be. My older boy on the other hand will get the eye opener a some point, and it will be a hard, hard lesson. But my wife and I are realistic- we don't have Messi or Ronaldo. We don't have Pele or even Pulisic ( not to denigrate Pulisic at all, he is a fantastic player, but on the world's stage he is middle of the road- our boy would not be middle of the road on the world's stage and will never even get that far. 
It's funny how many ways we find to torment ourselves as parents: my son got rejected by a girl- what does that do to him? My son tries, but his grades aren't stellar- what does that do to him? That's really where we come in right? We have to mold the byproduct of the experience into something conducive to our child living a satisfying, meaningful life. We can't completely whitewash it, because our kids in their hearts really know where they are, and if we tell them "It's just a matter of time" they know you are just doing your parental duty and helping their battered feelings. 
What I just wrote SOUNDS good to me, I just wish I always believed it or played the right cards.
Sounds like your child , OP, is in good, caring hands. [/quote]

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